EDITOR’S CHOICE
A compassionate, eye-opening guide that validates survivors, exposes hidden abuse, and empowers readers to recognise covert narcissism and begin healing.
In The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist, Debbie Mirza offers a compassionate and revelatory guide for those who feel confused, worn down, or mentally trapped in relationships they can’t quite explain. With remarkable clarity, Mirza sheds light on one of the most insidious forms of emotional abuse—covert narcissism.
Unlike overt narcissists, covert ones are harder to identify. They often appear kind, attentive, and even generous in public, making their manipulation all the more disorienting. Mirza masterfully outlines the behavioural patterns, control tactics, and emotional games these individuals play, helping readers connect the dots in their own experiences. Through relatable real-life examples, clear lists of traits, and a much-needed validation of the reader’s feelings, the book provides both insight and healing.
What stands out is the author’s gentle yet unwavering tone. She doesn’t just inform—she supports. Her chapters on sex, parenting, the workplace, and recovery are especially impactful, offering both breadth and depth. The checklist and healing chapter are invaluable tools for anyone trying to reclaim their reality and rebuild a life free from manipulation.
This book is not only informative, it’s empowering. It tells survivors: You are not crazy. You are not alone. You can heal.
Highly recommended for anyone seeking clarity after a toxic relationship, particularly when others don’t see the abuse. It’s a validating, eye-opening, and ultimately liberating read.
